Marriage pleasures in Indo-Pak

Marriage is something a, promise between two souls, to live together till death.

Couples are made in heaven, we don't know who will be our life partner in coming years, but nature always selects better then we think.

Their are too many similarities between Indo-Pak cultures, their family style of living, the way they think and the adopted culture of each other, but I am not going to discuss their culture here because it is a long discussion, I am just going to share the moments of pleasures, the bride and bridegroom enjoys during their marriage in Indo-Pak

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Pleasures moments before wedding
For many singles, one of the key pleasure of getting married is the feelings, taste and the change they want to enjoy in their life before and after wedding. The preparation for wedding starts few months before in he house of bridegroom while in case of a girl it starts when she enters 15 because it becomes impossible for parents to manage everything at the mean time.

Several views before marriage
Their are several views there, about wedding like that,
"The girl will not move outside the home during sun shine because her complexion will turn dark (black)".

"Girl will not do, lot of work when she is nearly going to be married because it is necessary that bride look fresh and smart at her special day of wedding".

"The girl will not meet her fiance after engagement, they will only meet after their marriage but now the concept has been changed too much, now people think that it is better that both girl/boy meet, in order to know much about their selves".

Last three weeks before marriage becomes more comfortable for the bridegroom because he is advised not to do any physical work and take complete rest so that, to look fresh, bright and smart at the wedding day. When wedding date is as far as one week, all friends of the bridegroom gather together every evening to chit chat, dance in order to make these days memorable for the boy who is going to be married soon.

Their is a tradition in many cities of Indo-Pak that, bridegroom must have to wear a special type of hat on his head known as "Kulla" in their language so that he looks like an actual bridegroom. When wedding date is decided all the friends of the bridegroom wear same kind of dresses but the bridegroom must wear some different in color etc or the special type of dress design for the boy known as "Sherwani", so that everyone can recognize the bridegroom from a distance.

Pleasures moments after wedding
When a girl get married a new concept arises that, "Bride will start her home job after one month" or "Bride will not join the kitchen before two weeks". And it is also expected that bride must always be dress up and look pretty and the the young couple will enjoy the invitations/dinners from their relative and friends etc.

Another interesting moment after marriage comes when bride is being advised that, "She will start her kitchen job by cooking something sweet, sweet dish at the start is believed as a good sign that she will remain sincere to her new family.
I still remember the weeding months of my uncle that how they enjoyed dinners, parties and went to honeymoon to start the new life in a pleasant way.

First two months are important
First two months after wedding decides that either the control moves towards wife's hand or husband will enforce his rules on wife as well as home, and if wife get in-charge you will often see, the husband carrying morning tea to their wives in bed.
Oh! pray for those males, but it will be better if both the vehicles move parallel and listen to each other.

The culture of honeymoon is now become more popular in Indo-Pak then before and now couples feel proud to move abroad for honeymoon and enjoyment.

If we calculate the ratio between love and arrange marriages in Indo-Pak then it will be 70% for arrange marriages and 30% for love marriages, the high ratio of arrange marriages in Indo-Pak are perhaps of their strong family setup. I also interviewed many peoples, most of them are in the favor of arrange marriages. But whether the marriages are by love or arrange its up to us how we will make it successful.

Another trend is also too popular in Indo-Pak that a new bride often says, Oh! please hire a servant for the home job such as washing, scrubbing and cleaning the house etc and most of the husbands bows upon their requests to facilitate their loved ones.

Control over matters
In Indo-Pak mostly husband has a great control over their wife and home, because wives are not allowed to went out for job/earning etc. The role of wives are just limited to their homes but now the concept has been changed too much and lot of woman's are viewed at work places.

But the thing I like the most in Indo-Pak culture is that, either there is lunch or a time of dinner all the family members sit around the table and enjoy their meals, chit chat together even in such type of busy life.

God has sent all the creatures in the form of couples, even a single bee will be in couple, the main reason for making couples is to flourish love, to produce next generation and to maintain the balance in life.

At last I will say only one sentence "Be sincere with your life partner same as you are sincere with your life".